• Published on: 17 February 2019
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?


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    THE.INFERNO.KID   19 seconds ago

    A lot of time you are better off alone to be honest, not having to deal with the BS society has laid out for you is good actually.

  • Thomas Jardine
    Thomas Jardine   52 minuts ago

    Every day I walk into class rooms and pubs full of people, and I am crushed by the sense of isolation

  • Alexander Hess
    Alexander Hess   1 hours ago

    Sadly, these tips don't help much. All I feel is being reminded of my mental state. Currently I feel extremely lonely and isolated, though I do still have a social circle and people who care. Though the progress shifts exactly as described in this video towards rejecting invitations, rejecting people and isolating self even more, despite yearning for relationships. Alongside develops a severe depression. In this state there is not much point to anything. Neither paid work nor volunteer work are mending, neither are weekend events. It just gets worse.

  • jumangi 23
    jumangi 23   2 hours ago

    Great video! Thankyou for making it.

  • N3ttX
    N3ttX   3 hours ago

    “Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity, and as dangerous as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day”What if I'm fat, smoke pack a day and lonely? Should be dead by now..

  • Eggmon -
    Eggmon -   6 hours ago

    I feel so bad for the person in the video. I’d love to just jump into the screen and give them a hug. ❤️

  • afza afiqah
    afza afiqah   8 hours ago

    Im lonely because i been avoiding people as to protect myself and lazinese..but i make bad assumption first when i want to get to know someone..cause at least i know whats the worse that could happen..it hurts to be lonely, but like the its hurt to be rejected and feeling isolated

  • strangelf 47829
    strangelf 47829   8 hours ago

    Or getting excluded without your friends knowing they do.

  • kristianto nugroho
    kristianto nugroho   9 hours ago

    I always think that each of us has it's own world inside our mind, that's why sometimes i feel miserable or crazy thinking alone.

  • toby su
    toby su   11 hours ago

    But what if your “friends” keep you out of there house when you come over to their home

  • yas usman
    yas usman   12 hours ago

    when it's your time to share but you were disrupted by that friend, then all of the attention goes back to that friend. i really hate that feeling; reason why i love being with my gadgets than with humans.

  • DD CP
    DD CP   12 hours ago

    Nobody gives a fuck about the industrial revolution

  • TheEntonOnTheNet
    TheEntonOnTheNet   12 hours ago

    Wow, I thought i just hated being with other people, turns out I yearn for friendly social interactions, but I'm too afraid of hurting them or myself.

  • Nico
    Nico   13 hours ago

    This Video sadly made me feel lonely.

  • Tyy
    Tyy   14 hours ago

    Stop describing my life.

  • Stoss 42
    Stoss 42   14 hours ago

    I've been lonely for such a long time despite the fact I live with my two older brothers. I keep to myself and spend a lot of my time on the internet , watching TV or listening to music. I've wasted my life and really have no one to blame but myself. I would love to have a girlfriend but l never go out and expect them to come knocking on my door lol But seriously I just want to be loved and share special moments with a partner. I daydream about having a girlfriend and how great it would be.

  • angry avacado
    angry avacado   16 hours ago

    I'm in the odd class lol I love being alone and hate talking to people to the point I leave mid conversation because I get so agitated I love my job because I dont need to talk to anyone and I'm in a cell by myself 🥰

  • Punished Szturm
    Punished Szturm   16 hours ago

    I think many people watched this video but didn’t totally absorb its contents. The point isn’t to just accept that you’re lonely, but to try and change it during your everyday life. Try and reach out to someone who may be experiencing it too at work, or at school, or maybe strike up conversation. You can’t get over that anxiety and that feeling of loneliness if you don’t try. People are scary, and seeing the potential of messing up a social interaction is scary as well, but you won’t get better at it if you don’t practice. It’s like drawing, or playing music, or even online gaming. Sure, you can do the same thing for hours and be content with your progress, but sometimes you have to try new techniques, strategies, even seek help for those parts you just can’t seem to get right. You all can do it, trust me, I do believe in you.

  • poppie momma
    poppie momma   18 hours ago

    im going to give advice to ppl who have been cut off bc "moving on" is easier said then done.... chances are if you are being cut off you may feel lonely and rejected. in AA and other groups that makes one better themsleves, they say to put yourself through 6 groups. as in go out and find club sports, youth groups, social events, volunteer, do bible study, help the youth. just find something to consistantly be apart of... will you meet your bestfriend? who knows but that aint the goal. the goal isnt to replace your friend but do something spontanious. meeting so many people and being apart of new groups will fill you up and help you move on and ( hopefully ) you will have fun! hope this helps :-)

  • Christopher Boyd
    Christopher Boyd   18 hours ago

    If you’re lonely, look on the bright side - everybody dies eventually, so it won’t last forever.

  • Briina
    Briina   19 hours ago

    I'm Suffering from Chronic Loneliness? Oh, greeeeeeat. So I'll die sooner? Sigh Figures.

  • Plague Seeker
    Plague Seeker   21 hours ago

    Kinda wanna keep the streak going, my loneliness passive stack is at like 4000 at this point.

  • Authentic Bastard
    Authentic Bastard   1 days ago

    "Loneliness can kill you"And you are saying it like it's a bad thing ? Jeez try to be more optimistic at least if you die quicker you will suffer less .. right ?

  • Justin Rohrer
    Justin Rohrer   1 days ago

    No matter how dangerous loneliness is, there is no cure for it; in this cruel world, you can't just make friends with a snap of a finger like you could 60 years ago. Most people are fake. It's borderline impossible to make real friends. Most people that you'd consider your friend probably don't even consider you a friend. I have never had a real friend in my 16 years of life. Most of the friends that I've had have taken advantage of me, said mean things about me, pretended to be my friend and one day just never talked to me again. None of them would ever text me first. Quite a few of my ex friends have ditched me for their other friends, one even raped me. It's a new generation and loneliness is not curable for the last of the good people in this world.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous   1 days ago

    My brain: Dude this friend is annoying and he/she's stealing the time u wanted to do things alone, quit being with him/herMe: Okay dude Me: (Does thing I wanted to do)My brain: OMG U HAVE NO FRIENDS U FEEL SO LONELYMe: WHAT TF IS WRONG WITH U????????

  • Luke Pattinson
    Luke Pattinson   1 days ago

    Me: texts a girlshe doesn't replyAlso me: Plays Akon Lonely

  • Panasit
    Panasit   1 days ago

    One thing that comes from loneliness that is disastrous and this video may overlook is it makes people have no choice but to join organization or gang of friends who do bad things. Some people may laugh it off. "Because you are lonely, you join a gang?" Yes. Loneliness is that powerful. People join cult and gang and some perverted niche group because they need someone to talk to. When family members, workplace, don't do it for them; vulnerable people would rather be evil than be alone.

  • Mr Meep
    Mr Meep   1 days ago

    Can really relate to this video, keep these great videos up! :D